11 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG BLOGGERS DON’T DO
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As bloggers we all struggle with the basics of blogging; creating content, getting traffic and monetizing. There are thousands of articles that will share methods and strategies with you that you can try to improve any one of those areas. But blogging is not just about content, traffic and dollar signs. Those aren’t the main struggles; sometimes the main struggle is you.
If you’re not mentally strong, determined and thick-skinned, blogging may be challenging for you. I know it’s a challenge for me because I’m not all of those things. I’m pregnant with my third, which causes me to be in a constant mental fog, tired and super sensitive. Mean comment leaves me in tears and low traffic days on my blog makes me just want to curl up on the couch watching The Office while eating cereal.
So after recently stumbling upon an article going through the key points of mentally strong people, which turned into a bestselling book by Amy Morin, I decided to write down the mental challenges I face daily with my blog.
This list is mostly a personal pep talk. I know I struggle with each of these key points daily. Some days I’m a rock star, squatting 105lbs, getting thousands of page views and staying on top of my emails. Other days, all I want to do is sleep.
Regardless, I hope this list helps you too. You’re not in this alone. We’re all struggling with these topics. But if I can be successful with my blog despite my challenges, you can too!
11 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG BLOGGERS DON’T DO
DONT DO THE COMPARISON GAME
I’m a sensitive person, or maybe it’s just the pregnancy hormones, but I frequently fall into the comparison trap. As a blogger it’s difficult not to compare yourself with other more successful bloggers in your niche. “What is she doing that works so well?”, “I’ll never be able to make that much money.”, “My blog looks terrible compared to hers.”, I fight off these thoughts all the time.
Half the battle with blogging is overcoming that negativity. It is so easy to compare your week old blog to a four-year-old super successful blog and completely forget how much hard work went into it behind the scenes.
Don’t compare your day 1 to their day 1,000.
When these negative thoughts creep in I can allow myself to feel down for days. But I need to remember that it’s my choice how I feel. I can also choose to see their success as motivating and continue to work hard.
DONT DOUBT THEIR ABILITIES
It’s so easy to see blogger who has done this for years and completely get demotivated and doubt your own abilities. If you know you’re good at something, use that skill to grow your online business.
Sure, there are many people that are fantastic photographers, or crafters or who throw Pinterest worthy parties. But is there only one successful photographer that you know? Or do you know a few?
Even if someone else has similar abilities to you, your voice is unique, your experience is unique and you can build a following online. You can find your niche and be successful.
DONT RUN AWAY FROM A CHALLENGE
Mentally strong bloggers know that building a business from scratch is no joke. You’re most likely starting with zero followers and zero page views, launching a brand new blog to the world. The climb to success seems impossible, but mentally strong bloggers do not give up. They understand how challenging it is to grow a new business, and the challenge excites them.
Knowing that if they work hard enough, continue to test out new strategies and always focus on their reader, they have the ability to reach millions!
DONT WASTE TIME ON THE UNCONTROLLABLES
This is a difficult topic. Most people like to be in control of their future and environment. As a mom, I’ve become a bit more controlling; trying my best to create a safe, loving and nurturing environment for my children. One of the hardest challenges in life for me is to recognize that I’m not in control of everything. That the best thing I can do is pray, trust and work hard.
It’s a waste of time to constantly worry about the things you cannot control, or to allow your mind to be overrun by the fear of the unknown.
Mentally strong bloggers understand that algorithms and technology change and that the strategies they use today will have to be changed and adapted to new challenges in the future. Accepting that there are things that are out of your control allows you to adapt quicker and grow faster without getting stuck in old ways.
DONT TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE
Inevitably there will be readers that visit your blog that may not agree with your viewpoints. Your blog is open and public for others to read, and not everyone will become a true fan, or even a fan at all.
Mentally strong bloggers know that if they want to help someone, they’ll have to offer specific advice. And that same advice may not work for others. It’s okay to receive a bad comment every now and then, or an email from a reader who does not agree with your viewpoints. Your mental strength and courage will need to keep you focused on the big picture when these little rocks come your way.
DONT FEAR SMART RISKS
Compared to other side hustles or work from home jobs, blogging is relatively low risk. But it does require smart investments to grow to the top. Hosting, courses, ebooks and online tools can quickly add up to a few hundred dollars a month if you don’t invest wisely. Or you could waste weeks of time by never investing in the right tools you desperately need.
Smart bloggers know when they can DIY it, and when they need to invest in a course or tool to help them manage their business. They are not afraid of investing in themselves and growing their online business.
DONT DWELL ON PAST MISTAKES OR FAILURES
Nothing will keep you from success as much as continuously focusing on your past mistakes and failures. Mentally strong bloggers know that their focus needs to be on their end goal and vision.
In the same way that surrounding yourself with negative company brings down your mood, so too will focusing on your mistakes and failures bring down your success.
The best thing to do is to acknowledge those failures, assess what went wrong, learn from it and move on.
If you’re constantly thinking about the chocolate you just ate that threw off your diet, then chocolate will always be on your mind. Get the negativity out of your mind so you can open yourself up for success.
DONT RESENT OTHER BLOGGER’S SUCCESS
Ah, this is personally a difficult one for me. I am constantly doing the comparative game in my mind. It’s a weakness and not something I am proud of. But instead of letting the resentment drive me to paralysis, I use that fuel to power my work ethic. When I see others succeed, it drives me to work harder. They’ve proven that it can be done, they’ve blazed a path. If one person can do it, then I can too.
Mentally strong bloggers, and I’m not always in that camp, see other’s success, congratulate them, and do not let it cause a dark pit of resentment within them.
Let other’s success fill you with motivation, not resentment.
DONT GIVE UP – EVER
One of the hardest parts about blogging is that you have to put in a lot of work upfront to see a slow benefit come in. It takes months or years for some bloggers to attain full time earning status from their blogs. But the main reason why some bloggers end up making thousands per month, while others just fade away, is because they never give up.
If Google changes its algorithm and all of their traffic screeches to a halt, they work on other traffic methods. If Facebook no longer shows their posts in the news feed, they shift their focus to Pinterest or Instagram. And if one source of income dies away, they work on other sources to keep their income growing.
Blogging is constantly changing so your traffic and monetization methods will need to be adapted too. Mentally strong bloggers do not let algorithm changes, affiliate pay structures or sponsored post revenue changes derail them. They never ever give up.
DONT FEAR ALONE TIME
This point may be appealing to some, as many bloggers are actually very introverted. But the majority of your blogging career will be spent with your computer as your only companion. Blogging will allow you to create countless virtual friendships with others online. You’ll be able to Skype, chat, message, email, post, like and tweet with people you truly feel connected to. But you’ll have to make the effort and reach out to them.
If you plan it, you’ll be able to meet all of the friends that live inside your computer at blogging conferences or get togethers. But honestly, blogging is lonely if you don’t make connections.
It’s also another big reason why many bloggers give up. There is no one beside you keeping you accountable or motivating you. It’s just you and your computer in the first few months of blogging before you start making friends. Don’t fear the alone time, don’t give up, it is so worth it.
DONT EXPECT IMMEDIATE RESULTS
And the number one reason why bloggers fail is because they expect immediate (or quick) results. It took me 6 months before I broke $1,000 with my blog in a month. It takes many bloggers much longer.
In the beginning, you won’t be making the big bucks. You’re building a business from scratch and that takes time. Every word you write, every post you share, every Pinterest image you create is another little brick in the foundation of your blog. You can’t expect a half built blog to make $10,000 per month.
The beauty of blogging is that you can start making coffee money from day one. Let the little numbers motivate you! Set a realistic monetization timeline for yourself when you start blogging. Instead of aiming for $10,000, aim for $100. Once you hit that, then increase your goal.
Realistic goals will keep you motivated and prevent overwhelm and paralysis.
Below is a very quick timetable for monetization and email list goals. Once you know how to make $100 with your blog, and how to grow your list to 500, you have a strong foundation for building a very successful blog.
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CAN YOU RELATE?
I hope this list helps you as much as it helps me. I need the constant reminder that my attitude has a bigger impact on my blog’s success than anything else. If I don’t stay positive, motivated and determined, my blog will suffer.
If you ever need motivation or help, I’m here for you! Let me know in the comments if you struggle with the same challenges.